A SUMMARY on “Una Caro. In Praise of Monogamy by Fr Lawrence Ogundipe SDV

 

A SUMMARY  on “Una Caro. In Praise of Monogamy by Fr Lawrence Ogundipe SDV

*Una Caro* is a doctrinal reflection that explains why the Catholic Church upholds monogamous marriage as the original and God-given form of human love. 

The document begins by grounding monogamy in Scripture, showing how God created man and woman to become “one flesh,” a union marked by exclusivity, permanence, and mutual belonging. It explains that this unity is not just a social arrangement but a divine plan that reveals the dignity of both spouses.

The document highlights that Jesus restored marriage to its original beauty by rejecting divorce and selfishness, teaching that true love is faithful, self-giving, and lifelong. Monogamy, therefore, is not simply a European or Western idea but a universal human good that reflects God’s own faithful love for His people. It is also the form of marriage that best expresses the sacrament, which mirrors Christ’s exclusive love for the Church.

The text acknowledges that many cultures, especially in parts of Africa and Asia, have long practiced various forms of polygamy. While respecting cultural history, the document affirms that the Gospel calls all Christians to a higher vision of marriage that protects the equal dignity of spouses. It explains that polygamy often produces wounds such as rivalry, inequality, emotional insecurity, and injustice, especially for women and children.

The document insists that monogamy is not just a moral requirement but a path to human flourishing. It protects personal freedom, stabilizes family life, and promotes responsible fatherhood and motherhood. It also creates a home where children can grow securely with parents who give themselves fully to one another. For the Church, monogamy strengthens evangelization because it builds stable communities and forms families that reflect God’s faithful love.

Pastorally, the document recognizes that many Catholics come from cultural backgrounds where polygamy is still common. It calls pastors to show patience, compassion, and gradual accompaniment. The Church does not reject individuals caught in polygamous situations, but it guides them toward living the Gospel in truth, justice, and charity. It urges bishops and priests to form consciences clearly, support women who suffer inequality, and promote education that helps young people embrace monogamous marriage freely, not by pressure.

The text also addresses modern threats to monogamy, such as individualism, divorce culture, temporary “trial unions,” infidelity, and digital relationships that weaken commitment. It stresses that the Church must speak confidently about monogamous marriage as a gift, not as an outdated burden. True love, it says, requires permanence and mutual trust, which monogamy uniquely provides.

At its core, the document teaches that monogamy is both a divine command and a human blessing. It is the fullest expression of the Christian vocation to love as Christ loves: exclusively, faithfully, and totally. Marriage is thus a covenant, not a contract, and it calls each spouse to daily sacrifice, respect, and service.

“*Una Caro*” ends by reminding the faithful that monogamous marriage is a powerful witness in a world broken by division. When a man and woman remain united in faithfulness, they show that love is stronger than selfishness and that God’s grace can transform human relationships. The Church encourages all couples to trust in Christ, who gives the strength needed to live monogamy joyfully and fruitfully.